Visioncasting
What Vision are you casting to your family and friends? When you speak your words have power. Are you speaking good or evil? When you tell someone "You're no good" you are speaking a curse on that person. When you grumble and complain you are casting a negative vision. When you say "It can't be done" you are casting a negative vision.
People, especially kids, tend to live up to or down to your expectations of them. If you expect the bad in them then you should not be surprised when they deliver it.
Say there is someone in your life you are having issues with like a spouse, child, co-worker, future pastor, whoever. If you want the best then speak it and cast a positive vision. Find something you can compliment in that person and encourage that thing. Never mind the thing you don't like in that person, let God handle that, instead, build up, edify and encourage the other person in the thing you find that is good in them.
Do they drive you nuts because they are so slow at getting their work done? Then instead of complaining about how slow it is, compliment them for taking the time to be thorough. My 14 year old son went to get something out of the hall closet (the family everything, video, game, closest) the other day and could not get in because it was so cluttered. So he pulled everything out, vacuumed the entire floor, restacked the videos and games, put everything back in and organized it. No one asked him to, no one told him he had to do that, he just saw it and did it. Now I could have complained to him about a lot of other thins he had not done (chores or mowing the lawn or it could be anything) but I seized the opportunity to compliment him. I told him I really appreciated his initiative, his hard work, his attention to detail, and his thoroughness in getting this done. I reinforced it by rewarding him with points (we have a point system in our house - get points for doing good stuff, lose points for bad stuff and trade points in for videos or games or special treats. It works great). I made a big deal about how proud I was of him for doing what he did especially when he was not asked to. Now he will remember that because I cast a positive vision for him and spoke blessings into him. He will want to live up to those expectations and receive more praise in the future for similar acts.
So we have a new pastor coming. So maybe there is something you don't care for in the new pastor. Find something you do like and compliment him on that. Find ways to truthfully say encouraging things to him to build him up.
Say you are out eating in a restaurant and you get good service from your waiter. When the meal is over, ask to speak to the manager (they always get nervous when you ask for the manager). When the manage comes over, compliment the waiter and the outstanding service you received and tell him you will be back for great service like they have provided. Everyone else complains, why not be the one that compliments.
Cast a positive Vision.
Sometimes when someone is acting up and causing problems, instead of yelling at them or complaining to them, take a closer look at them. What is really going on with that person. Maybe you don't know everything. Find out and help them out. We were working with the youth a few weeks ago and there was one guy who kept needling people and pushing their buttons to get a reaction. I watched him all week do this. Then at the end of the week I took 5 of the guys one on one and talked to them and complimented something I saw in them that week that was good. I cast a positive vision in them. This one guy who needled everyone I took aside and told him that he had a gift for being able to read people. I told him he was very good at figuring people out but that he was misusing that ability to pick on people and get a reaction out of them. I went on to say that I did not think he was doing this to be mean, he was doing it because 1) he wanted attention and 2) he did not know how to talk to people and the only ay he knew to get someone to talk to him was to push their buttons. Instead of doing that, I told him to start using his ability to find out what people needed and then to start trying to help meet the other person's need and to use that as a way to build a relation, get the attention he needs, and gain a friend in the process.
Philippians 4:8
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Proverbs 29:18
Where there is no vision, the people perish...
Everyone is casting some sort of vision. What kind of Vision are you casting?
Gary
gkendall@KendallSystems.com
www.KendallSystems.com
972-488-0009
"While it is hard to motivate someone with no Vision, it is almost impossible to stop someone with a Vision." - gary kendall
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